There are the ones who gossip and the ones who listen to the ones who gossip and come and talk to the one who is gossiped about by the ones who gossip. If that is too complicated, let me explain. Gossip is a two way process and is a dynamic relationship. There are always 2 parties involved.
1) The one (s) who gossip (s ):
Definition: this is a person who has ample time and is usually either in a position of authority got by clout, or stuck in a position because of severe incompetence or ignored by the boss because he belongs to the category ' better left alone than waste time to increase efficiency'.
Characteristics: this person is usually a braggart and talks very highly of himself, merely to cover his incompetence. He also has a names dropping tendency, just to tell people ' hey, I may be stuck where I A,m but actually I belong to this gang.' Of course some of the important people whose names he drops in the conversations would have either forgotten him or cut his call the moment the phone rings, or pretend they are out of town if they receive his call.
He/ She loves to talk about personal things at work and usually knows more about people than the concerned people themselves. Having a low I Q level, but being too low IQ to recognise that, he accepts and transmits information without batting an eyelid. Needless to say, 90% of the time, he roams around with wrong information overload.
This kind of person usually relies on half truths as they are forced to be braggarts by nature ( how else does one explain such sheer foolishness and incompetence?) . Slowly these kind of people get used to their own half truths ( when you keep repeating certain things very often, you soon come to believe that they actually happened!).
2) The one(s) who listens to gossip:
Definition:
This kind of person is also highly self rated, due to lack of exposure to quality environments and thinks he/ she doesnt gossip and says so and initiates the very topic of gossip by tacit means. This kind of person usually is ignored on the home front and does not have too many friends due to sheer inability of quality conversation.
Characteristics:
This person is usually a similar loser but in a less consolidated position(e.g. junior).
This person has a habit of dropping into people's cabins or personal hang out groups as a gate crasher and somehow manages to steerthe conversation, tacitly into someone's (who isnt present there) personal life. Once he/she sets the ball rolling, the stories come out from the rest of the gang and ourperson has got a bouquet full of information but obviously sheer lack of understanding will make him/her give her own colour to the whole story.
This kind of person doesnt stop there. The next stop is with the person who was gossipped about. By omehow pulling and pushing, he/she will come to the point and let the unprepared person have the colourful and coloured (with incompetent understanding0 information.
This kind of person is the most dangerous one and the type to watch out for.
Unsolicited Advice about what to do when you see or encounter or have to encounter:
Type 1)
Shut him/her the very first time with some bitter truths. "One good question would be: " You are free now? You have a lot of free time?"
Ask him/ her a high I Q question regarding work.
Ask him/ her a question about the areas on which you think he has bragged.
these are more than enough to quieten such a person:
Type 2):
Shut him/ her the very first time by saying " how come he speaks all these gossip only to you? Did you ask yourself? How did the topic emerge?
Hey I didnt know there was so much talk about me! Never heard a soul talking about you man! Do you think people find me intriguing?
Noone ever talks to me about others.. i am sure they dont want to talk such low level stuff with me! Thats why you should also work on enhancing your personality.
Give him/ her some links to visit to pass time more positively.
This person won't come to you for some time ( only sometime because due to low IQ level, sense doesnt stay for long and one is sure to come back to level one very soon).
1) The one (s) who gossip (s ):
Definition: this is a person who has ample time and is usually either in a position of authority got by clout, or stuck in a position because of severe incompetence or ignored by the boss because he belongs to the category ' better left alone than waste time to increase efficiency'.
Characteristics: this person is usually a braggart and talks very highly of himself, merely to cover his incompetence. He also has a names dropping tendency, just to tell people ' hey, I may be stuck where I A,m but actually I belong to this gang.' Of course some of the important people whose names he drops in the conversations would have either forgotten him or cut his call the moment the phone rings, or pretend they are out of town if they receive his call.
He/ She loves to talk about personal things at work and usually knows more about people than the concerned people themselves. Having a low I Q level, but being too low IQ to recognise that, he accepts and transmits information without batting an eyelid. Needless to say, 90% of the time, he roams around with wrong information overload.
This kind of person usually relies on half truths as they are forced to be braggarts by nature ( how else does one explain such sheer foolishness and incompetence?) . Slowly these kind of people get used to their own half truths ( when you keep repeating certain things very often, you soon come to believe that they actually happened!).
2) The one(s) who listens to gossip:
Definition:
This kind of person is also highly self rated, due to lack of exposure to quality environments and thinks he/ she doesnt gossip and says so and initiates the very topic of gossip by tacit means. This kind of person usually is ignored on the home front and does not have too many friends due to sheer inability of quality conversation.
Characteristics:
This person is usually a similar loser but in a less consolidated position(e.g. junior).
This person has a habit of dropping into people's cabins or personal hang out groups as a gate crasher and somehow manages to steerthe conversation, tacitly into someone's (who isnt present there) personal life. Once he/she sets the ball rolling, the stories come out from the rest of the gang and ourperson has got a bouquet full of information but obviously sheer lack of understanding will make him/her give her own colour to the whole story.
This kind of person doesnt stop there. The next stop is with the person who was gossipped about. By omehow pulling and pushing, he/she will come to the point and let the unprepared person have the colourful and coloured (with incompetent understanding0 information.
This kind of person is the most dangerous one and the type to watch out for.
Unsolicited Advice about what to do when you see or encounter or have to encounter:
Type 1)
Shut him/her the very first time with some bitter truths. "One good question would be: " You are free now? You have a lot of free time?"
Ask him/ her a high I Q question regarding work.
Ask him/ her a question about the areas on which you think he has bragged.
these are more than enough to quieten such a person:
Type 2):
Shut him/ her the very first time by saying " how come he speaks all these gossip only to you? Did you ask yourself? How did the topic emerge?
Hey I didnt know there was so much talk about me! Never heard a soul talking about you man! Do you think people find me intriguing?
Noone ever talks to me about others.. i am sure they dont want to talk such low level stuff with me! Thats why you should also work on enhancing your personality.
Give him/ her some links to visit to pass time more positively.
This person won't come to you for some time ( only sometime because due to low IQ level, sense doesnt stay for long and one is sure to come back to level one very soon).
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